Gossip is often seen as something to avoid, usually linked with negativity or unnecessary criticism. But when looked at through a different lens, this everyday habit may not be entirely bad. In fact, research suggests that a little harmless gossip can actually help strengthen emotional bonds in relationships by creating trust, shared understanding and a sense of closeness.
A study conducted by the University of California found that couples who gossip daily are better off than others. The bond between them becomes stronger. The survey of 76 couples showed that they spend an average of about 38 minutes daily gossiping. Of this, 29 minutes were spent jointly talking about someone. These small conversations strengthened the bond between them.
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What is gossip exactly?
Gossip doesn't just mean discussing or talking about someone's bad aspects. Researchers believe gossip means talking about someone who is not present. It can be positive, neutral, or mildly critical.
How does gossip bring relationships closer?
Creates a sense of being on the same team
When one person talks with another about friends or acquaintances, what someone said, what they did, trust increases between the two. There's a feeling that we are both on the same team. Gossip increases mutual understanding.
Builds trust and intimacy
Gossiping means you are sharing your feelings and opinions about a person or situation with your partner. This helps increase emotional safety and trust in the relationship.
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Creates memories
When both people remember social events like incidents from a party or meeting, in subsequent conversations and laugh about them, it creates feelings of joy. This strengthens the bond.
Helps reduce stress
Gossip also helps reduce daily life pressures and fatigue. Gossip means speaking openly, which keeps the mind well. Mental stress decreases.
What should you keep in mind?
Remember to talk about someone in a way that doesn't hurt their character or dignity. Don't say anything with the intention of belittling someone or leaking confidential information. It's important to have open discussions between the two of you about the nature and limits of gossip.
