After returning from work, couples usually enjoy chatting happily with each other over tea, discussing how their day went, who said what, and every minute detail of the whole day and whatnot. But some days are different. A usual casual conversation suddenly escalates. Couples began blaming each other. The situation got so tense that neither of them even look at the other. But whenever something like this happens, couples should sit together at the dining table, hand each other their daily medicines. Then what? Who should be the first to break the tension?
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Give each other time
Time is like an antiseptic cream lying around in the room, which soothes cuts, rashes, blisters, pimples, hands, feet, ankles, or even the lower back. When emotions run high, people do make wrong decisions. Just give yourself a little time to cool off. You will notice after a while that things naturally settle.
Notice what the disagreement is really about
Is there an old wound that continues to ache, that keeps on coming up? In an argument, it's often the old hurt that rises to the surface. Perhaps both of you are being influenced by some past hurt, fear, or hidden anxiety, and that is the actual cause of the fight. Rather than deciding who is right or wrong in the heat of the moment, try to find out the root cause of the anger together.
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Talk it out
Take a time-out from interacting with each other face-to-face. Then, talk to one another calmly. No ordering or instructing should be done, and no complaints or criticisms should be voiced. Speak in a manner that will help you both become each other's source of trust place where you feel protected and understood.
Adjust your tone and manner of speaking
The way you speak-your tone, your gestures, your expressions extremely important. It lets the other person understand exactly how you feel. Even if you couldn't hug or reconcile immediately after a fight, your tone and gestures can communicate that there's no lasting resentment.
