Disha has recently given birth to a daughter. While managing the responsibilities of her newborn, she has started returning to content creation. Being a social media influencer by profession, she cannot stop content creation. That is Disha's source of income.
After completing maternity leave, Aratrika has rejoined the office. She is managing office work while leaving her 6-month-old son with her mother and nanny.
Neha has always been health-conscious. During pregnancy, she had gained almost 10 kg. One month after delivery, she focused on fitness again. She is eating on time. She is exercising regularly. She is also taking care of her skin.
There are countless such examples in this society. But when new mothers return to their work after managing child responsibilities, or become conscious about their own health, they face criticism. Many have to hear whether the baby comes first or the career. As a result, many new mothers suffer from remorse. This is called 'mom guilt'.
Many mothers feel that they are making mistakes by focusing on their careers or taking care of themselves. The remorse that career or self-care comes before children, when children should be first on the priority list, disturbs the mother's mind and increases depression.
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There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself alongside your child or returning to work. After childbirth, multiple changes occur in women's bodies and their lives. Many forget about themselves while taking care of their children. On top of that, connections with the outside world are almost severed. Depression increases, which is called postpartum depression. Suffering from remorse in the midst of this creates more problems. However, there are ways to overcome this 'mom guilt'.
How to avoid 'mom guilt' or remorse?
Feel proud. You are taking care of your child while also looking after yourself, not compromising with your career. You are fulfilling all responsibilities with dedication. You should feel proud of yourself for this.
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Everyone's life is not the same. So don't worry about what five people outside are saying about your parenting style. This will only increase your stress. Instead, give complete attention to the work you want to do or are doing.
Take 'mom guilt' positively. Think about how mentally and physically strong you are, that's why you can do all the work yourself.
If your husband and family members are supportive, you don't have to face such problems at all. So if you feel remorse about any issue, discuss it with close people.
