A video from Delhi has sparked a fresh online debate on gender roles and expectations within Indian families after an elderly man shared his views on what makes a “good bahu” (daughter-in-law). The clip, recorded and shared by content creator Sonali Singh, has gone viral on Instagram, drawing sharp criticism from social media users.
What the video shows
The video begins with Singh asking a straightforward question to passers-by: “Aapke hisaab se acchi bahu kaun hoti hai?” (“According to you, what makes a good daughter-in-law?”). Responding to this, the man, who identifies himself as a University of Delhi graduate, states that a daughter-in-law’s primary responsibility should be to care for her husband’s parents.
He said, “Acchi bahu ka ye farz banta hai ki she should take care of her parents, by that I mean her husband’s parents. Dekhiye, unka jo rujhan hai jo maine aaj kal dekha hai, wo apne parents mein hai (A good daughter-in-law’s duty is to care for her husband’s parents. Nowadays, their attention is on their own parents; she should focus on in-laws).”
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Remarks that triggered backlash
Expanding on his point, the man said, “Wo apne husband ke parents ko parents nahi manti aur unko tang karne lagti hai tab parents se bhi jhelna mushkil ho jata hai (“Once women start bothering them, dealing with them also becomes difficult).”
“Usko baat karni hai toh wo apni sister se baat karegi, apni mother se karegi. Wo naye ghar mein mix up nahi hoti (If she wants to talk, she speaks to her sister or mother. She doesn’t blend into her new home),” he continued.
These comments, shared widely on Instagram, were quickly picked up and circulated across social media, where users began voicing strong objections.
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How netizens react
The video drew an avalanche of reactions, with many users calling the man’s views outdated and one-sided. Several comments questioned why a daughter-in-law should be expected to deprioritise her own parents after marriage.
One user commented, “You should ban these WhatsApp uncles from speaking after 60.”
Another user commented, “Educated on paper and uneducated in real life.”
A third user commented, “Sadly, he is so okay with thinking that daughters shouldn’t prioritise their own parents, rather entitle.”
